Create Quality Relationships Through Meditation
by Curt Remington
Our relationships may be the most important aspect of our lives. If we’re battling with our spouse, can’t get along with coworkers, or are desperately lonely, our lives can be miserable. On the other hand, if we have a loving partner, close friends, and a supportive family, life can be blissful.
Meditation can vastly improve the quality of our relationships, as we let go of stress, anger judgment, all of which can get in the way of good relationships. The meditation exercises you’ll find below will also increase your positive feelings towards others, and their positive feelings towards you. The second exercise can help you overcome loneliness. The third exercise can attract new relationships into your life, possibly even the love or your life.
Improving Relationships (Heart Chakra) Meditation
This meditation will increase your positive feelings towards those around you. Once you’ve reached your quiet and comfortable place, take a few deep breaths and relax. With your thoughts quieted, visualize a very important person in your life. This could be a spouse, child, parent or close friend. Holding their image, contemplate one or two traits that are unique and positive about them. Maybe they’re very generous, creative, funny or loving. If positive characteristics are not coming up, remember that person is only human and move through their traits until you find a positive one. Everyone has some. As you’re contemplating that trait, feel your fondness for that person. The feeling is probably coming from the area of your heart or fourth chakra. After feeling the warmth for that person, find someone else important in your life and do the same thing.
As you move from person to person, sense a growing golden glow radiating from your heart, like sunshine. Let the rays of this warmth shine for as long as you like, touching the important people in your life. If you want, you can then expand it farther so it reaches others, like those in your neighborhood, town or even expand it to the world. If everyone did this, we could make the world a brighter, more loving place. When you’re done, take a few more deep breaths and realize that you can continue to radiate that caring light as you go on about your day.
Although lonely people may feel like it, they are not alone in their loneliness. A recent national survey found that one fourth of all adults goes through painful loneliness at least once every four weeks.
Often, lonely people are reluctant to get out and connect with others. They may become critical of themselves, seeing their loneliness as their fault. They may also become critical of others, often blaming them for their situation. If you’re lonely, the heart chakra exercise will help by increasing positive feeling towards others and by moving your focus outward.
In doing the heart chakra meditation, you can start by visualizing your loneliness as a dark cloak covering you. As bright, golden energy radiates out from your heart center, let it fill your body with loving energy. It’s hard to love others until you love yourself. Then, see this energy radiating out and melting away the cloak of loneliness. Instead of that dark cloak, bright light now surrounds you.
The next step is to visualize yourself meeting people that are kind and appreciate you.
The final step, after you’re done meditating, is to actually go to events that interest you, where you will meet these people. This could be classes, clubs, or any of a variety of organizations. Personally, I’m very fond of Toastmasters.
Attracting a New Relationship
By regularly using the heart chakra meditation, you will begin to radiate more positive energy, which is definitely attractive to others. While you are doing the heart chakra meditation, hold the intention that a stronger beam of positive energy will reach the ideal person for you. This might mean the love of your life or maybe someone that will become a close friend. That person will feel the connection you’re establishing, on a subconscious, psychic level, and be drawn towards you.
Like the final step in overcoming loneliness, you need to follow this up by getting out into the world where you can meet nice people, by joining organizations or going to fun places.
Author’s Bio: Curt Remington is the author of Simple Meditation: A Spiritual Connection for Transforming Your Life, creator of this website and of meditationresources.net.